I first connected with OYFF before placing my daughter, Hannah, for adoption. Barely three weeks after signing the final papers on March 17, 2016, I attended my first birthmom retreat.
I was numb and overwhelmed, but so glad to meet new friends and find a support group.
It took me nearly a year to gather enough courage to share my adoption story at a women’s brunch in January 2017, in a presentation about hope and new beginnings.
It seemed like a good way to explain how far I had come, both in my career as a small business owner and in my personal life, from the day that changed my life forever:
“I’d been dating my boyfriend about five months when we found out we were pregnant.
...I was finally going to have a family; one that I loved, one that I had chosen and one that was mine alone. But then reality set in, as it does, and I realized that those daydreams were yet another symptom of my need for support and stability.
We decided to place our daughter for adoption.”
You can read the full speech in the article I published on Huffington Post.
After placing with a local Chicago agency, my partner and I attempted to move forward with our lives, and I’m still at the stage where getting used to my new status as a birthparent can be a struggle.
Some days, blogging about adoption and trying to spread awareness feels like “too much, too soon”. On other days, it drives me to keep writing.
Now I’m a full-time freelancer who is slowly learning about the adoption industry, what “being a birthmom” means, and how my new role and my relationship affect my future.
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